Growing up, it often felt like being yourself wasn't allowed. You learned that pleasing others was more important than honoring your own wants, needs, and feelings.
Over time, you became skilled at reading the room, anticipating what people wanted from you before they ever said a word. This wasn’t a personality trait—it was survival. When conflict, criticism, or emotional withdrawal were the consequences of being authentic, your nervous system learned to stay small, agreeable, and predictable.
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What you didn’t realize then was that this constant shape-shifting came at a cost. The parts of you with needs, opinions, frustrations, and dreams didn’t disappear—they just learned to hide. They went underground, carrying burdens of shame, fear, and the belief that their presence might make life harder.
On the outside, you functioned: you were helpful, kind, and capable. On the inside, though, you carried a quiet sense of emptiness, resentment, or confusion about who you actually were. It’s hard to build a solid identity when so much of your life was spent trying to be who others needed you to be.
And now, as an adult, you feel deeply unfulfilled.
It's left you....
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Lonely, even when with others.​
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Guarded in relationships, pulling back at the first sign of trouble.​
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Keeping others at a distance, not letting anyone to get too close.​​
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Wearing a mask to fit in with different groups, like a chameleon.​
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Pleasing others at your expense.​
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Imagining worst-case scenarios and have multiple backup plans ready.​
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Feel both "too much" & "not enough"
As an adult, these early patterns can show up in subtle but painful ways. You might struggle to make decisions without second-guessing yourself, or you may notice a familiar pull to over-accommodate in relationships, even when it harms you.
Speaking up about your needs might feel “too much,” “selfish,” or risky, even though logically you know that healthy relationships can tolerate honesty.
Inside, younger parts may still brace for punishment, rejection, or emotional fallout, simply because that’s what they had to prepare for long ago.
And all of those parts of you are welcome here.
Your anxious parts.
Your angry parts.
Your grieving parts.
The parts that are exhausted.
And resentful. And scared.
The parts that learned to stay quiet, stay small, stay pleasing.
The parts you’ve never let anyone see—because showing them never felt safe.
And also...
Those parts that want support.
And love. And connection.
The parts that want to trust, heal & feel safety...with yourself and others.
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Without the shame. The pain.
Or the weight of the past.
All parts of you are allowed.
The part that feels fear even when there’s no danger.
The part that doubts itself and questions its worth.
The part that learned to hide feelings to stay safe.
The part that longs to be seen, heard, and understood.
Just you—every part—arriving exactly as you are.
Childhood trauma doesn’t just stay in the past—it weaves itself into how you think, feel, connect, and cope today. When early experiences taught you to stay hyper-aware, hyper-independent, or hyper-responsible, your nervous system adapted in the only ways it knew how. Those adaptations were intelligent. Protective. Necessary. But now, they may be keeping you stuck in patterns that no longer serve the life you want to build.
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In our work together, we gently explore those long-held survival strategies with curiosity rather than judgment. We look at the child parts who had to carry burdens far too heavy for their age, and the adult parts who are exhausted from holding everything together. Healing from childhood trauma isn’t about “fixing” you—it’s about helping each part finally feel seen, understood, and supported.
Every part has a story. Every part has a purpose. And none of them are broken.
Parts work can....
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Give you a map of your internal landscape so you can stop feeling confused, overwhelmed, or ashamed of your reactions
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Help you recognize which parts are trying to protect you, which parts are carrying the wounds of the past, and which parts are longing for connection, rest, and relief
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Teach you why different pieces of your inner world react the way they do—why one part shuts down, another gets anxious, another gets angry, and another just wants to disappear
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Encourage you to create internal clarity, safety. and compassion so your system doesn't work against itself anymore
Parts work might be for you if...
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You are looking for a curious and compassionate approach to engage with and enhance your relationship with all aspects of yourself.
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You desire deeper insight into how childhood and teenage traumas have shaped who you are and how you connect with others.
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You are prepared to face your unhelpful thoughts and self-sabotaging habits, to discover a new way to nurture yourself with love and kindness
See my blog post here for a deeper dive into how IFS can help you heal!
